The Internet has made weddings more exciting since couples can easily update their events and status to friends and family. But, not every wedding moments should be posted across social media. And, while we enjoy the benefits of the Internet, here are some tips on how to use the web while planning a wedding.
Announcing your engagement. Update close family and friends personally first before even spreading the news about your engagement on Facebook. It is given that it is easier to update your social status on Facebook and tell everyone about the good news at once than telling your family and friends individually. However, your nearest and dearest will be expecting to hear the great news from you. So to avoid hurting their feelings and the drama that comes with it, make certain to inform them about your engagement before announcing it on social media.
Use E-vites. E-vites are eco-friendly and budget-friendly, which makes them perfect for budget conscious brides. But, if your mom insist that they are not proper, you can meet her halfway and send inexpensive printed invites to older relatives while just easily send e-vites to friends who will just love to receive them. As a word of caution though, make sure not to use social media when sending thank-you cards. When it comes to showing gratitude to friends and family, handwritten thank-you notes are still the best option.
Getting In Touch
Create a consistent and accessible wedding-related contact for guests. Wedding questions coming from your Facebook messages, emails, texts, and phone calls may also become overwhelming, better create a method that you know you can stick with. If you usually use your email and do not normally open Facebook because your office prohibited it, you may as well just use your email to receive all questions regarding your wedding. Post your email address on your wedding website and make certain that everyone knows that they can easily contact you through email.
For guests: More and more guests enjoy taking their own pictures of the bride and groom during the ceremony and at the reception. Make sure that the couple does not have a problem with you posting their pictures online. Since a lot of couples are also opting for unplugged ceremonies, check their wedding website or program if they have mentioned it. If you are not sure about their feelings, just play it safe and do not tag photos or upload pictures of them, until you get the green light. If you find that it is OK, post your photos a few days after the wedding.
For couples: Let your guests know how you feel about social media. If you want to have an unplugged wedding, put a note in your wedding program to let them know. However, do not stop them from posting pictures of themselves at your wedding on social sites since they are just as excited as you are. After the wedding, do not flood your friends on Facebook on albums after albums of your wedding. They know that your wedding day is special, but they might find it overwhelming to see 1000+ photos of you and your hubby.
What not to Do
Do not elope during the weekend and then post pictures the next day. Not personally telling close family and friends about your engagement is bad, but getting married without even telling anyone is worse. It is even worse, if you post your photos online for everyone to see. It is like hitting everyone on the face all at the same time. Having elopement announcements are still the way to go. Print them and send them to your mom, your sister, best friend, and those close to you, or you could also call them first and say the great news. Once you have announced your weekend wedding, then you can post right away.
Do not make decisions about your wedding based on what would look good on photos. Sure, most would want to capture the essence of their big day. But, you cannot really have fun if you are always worried about the right backdrop or if it is the perfect photo op. Even if you are social media expert like most of us are, DO unplug on your wedding day and just entertain your guests who came to celebrate with you.
Avoid the countdown. Do not be the type of bride or groom who constantly update their Facebook or Twitter status every 24 hours. “Only 365 days until my WEDDING DAY!” – and continue the next 364 days in a similar way. The same goes for marking the hours and days for pre-wedding events or announcing minor marriage milestones.
Do not advertise your registry. Your registry information belongs in one place and should remain in one place. Do not post links of your registry information using social media since this can give an impression that you are expecting people to give you gifts even though you did not invite them although that might be a good idea. And, taking pictures of guests who sent you gifts while saying “thank you” is not actually a real thank you.
Do not post unwanted updates. Facebook is not your personal message board so try not to post everything that you are doing in your newsfeed. Just think how some of your close friends would feel if they find out they are not invited to your bridal shower via their Facebook newsfeed. Also, do not flood your Instagram with pictures of every detail of what you are doing such as when you picked out chairs, tasted some cakes, and every small details that you think most would enjoy on seeing (NOT!).
Do not change your status mid-wedding. Take a Facebook hiatus on your big day! If the first thing you want to do right after you said “I do” is to change your social status to “Engaged” to “Married”, then you need to get your priorities straight! Concentrate on your wedding and not on your phone.