June is known to be the month of weddings. But while this is a happy occasion for soon-to-be-wedding couples, my friend is at his wits. And he has all the right reasons to be. Nope, he’s not the groom. And he’s not even the father of the groom. He is the brother of the groom, albeit his relationship with his brother is not the most sincere. For one he is not so keen with the bride, his future sister-in-law. Second, he knows he’s expected to give a funny and engaging speech. Third, he doesn’t feel comfortable speaking in front of the guests.
Have you ever been caught in this similar situation? If you haven’t, consider yourself lucky. Are there any tips to breeze through a wedding toast without embarrassing the groom, bride, guests or worse yourself? Have no fear! Simple tips are here.
NEVER BRING UP AN OLD FLAME. They are hidden in the closet for a reason and hidden it must remain especially during the reception. The occasion is a celebration of a union and certainly not the right time or place to bring it up. Instead, bring up an anecdote about how the couple met or any funny moment that might have been memorable for you. Again, it must be something appropriate of course. You don’t want to offend anyone at the reception.
KEEP IT WHOLESOME. While saucy and rambunctious comments may amuse some, remember that there are probably older relatives or guests who won’t appreciate it. Keeping it wholesome is the safer way to go about it.
THE TRIP DOWN THE MEMORY LANE. While it’s funny to go on a trip to memory lane, not everyone can probably relate to it, so keep it minimum at best.
STICK TO THE TOPIC ON HAND. A good preparation is needed for the speech so that you can resist the temptation of going from one topic to another. You can write keywords in a small paper to glance from once in a while to keep you right on track.
REMEMBER, IT’S THEIR DAY NOT YOURS. While you may be tempted to talk about your merits, always remember that you will have your own day and the star of the show is the couple. It’s about making their wedding a memorable one.
NO TIME FOR APOLOGIES. Telling people how close you are to the bride or groom is a misnomer. Apologizing for your failure as a friend or relative though is just pushing it. No one wants to hear about it on such a happy occasion. So even if you feel the urge to do so, just hold it in for now.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A JOKE. So the last thing you want to do is to joke about endings. It’s a beginning for the bride and groom, so never bring up the topic about endings.
KEEP IT SHORT AND SIMPLE. While you may have prepared a long speech, you do not want to bore your listeners. Just keep it simple, funny and engaging.
KEEP IT SOBER. Think twice before having too much drink. Booze and speech just never agreed with each other. Give your speech and reward yourself with a drink later.
NO PUBLIC DISPLAYS OF EMOTIONS. While you’re tempted to giggle out of nervousness or laugh when you’re overcome with emotion, this is definitely not the right time do so. Find an appropriate room, hidden from the public eye.
If you were in my shoes, how would you advise a friend? I advised my friend to keep it real, short and simple. These things can be wrapped into telling a warm, funny story about the bride or groom, expressing your own feelings, and directing your wishes towards the couple. Then, make a direct toast engaging the guests while saying “To the couple” in the end.